Burned out on several fronts

by Brent
(Indiana)

Hello group

My name is Brent.Im a youth minister and have been for 8 years.I love the job of ministry and I can't imagine doing anything else.My issues are on several front and you can feel free to chime in where you feel.First off, I'm 30 and have been married for 8 years as well.I have 2 small children.I have been having issues in my marriage in terms of a non-supportive wife.She doesn't support me emotionally or physically. I have struggled of late with sexual desires for her and she has just turned a blind eye.We have discussed it and my take away at the end of the conversation was that she truly doesn't care.She told me if sex meant that much to me she would try to make an effort to do it.That was last year and it has only happened 3 times in the last year.This in turn has caused me to carry the burden of feeling that my wife doesn't want me.I have turned to pornography and online chatting with woman, 2 things I thought I would never have to do.This has effected and hurt me so much as I feel I have let my family down and I have also let God down.I have a spouse who doesn't feel obligated to meet this need and I feel these are grounds to leave.Its not so much the sex as I feel she doesn't want me anymore.Everything else in her life seems to matter more. Im sick of stressing over it and I'm just ready to move on.

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