constant conflict with co-pastor

by Rev Thom
(California)

Recently, another pastor and I merged our churches. In our merger we agreed to a full equality in compensation and ministry with each having certain ministry responsibilities. Our ministry gifts seem to compliment each other and the church appears to be growing and benefiting from the merger.

My problem is the constant conflict over finances, ministry expression, suspicion, and power struggle that we have. It takes so much energy that I am beginning to question if it is worth it and if the right decision was made.

I had heard that co-pastoring a church doesn't work often and I am beginning to see why. I would appreciate any insights or wisdom gained from those who have been co-pastors in a church.

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Forced to retire
by: Anonymous

The person I co-pastored with forced me to retire. He did not have grounds but made up lies. I hated him for a while. I confessed to God and God forgave me.. I don't like the man but he belongs to God and I don't interact for the good of those who still attend. Furthermore when I posted my article I did not expect judgmental comments. Keep them to yourself. Perfection belongs to God alone!


co-pastoring conflict
by: Anonymous

One of the best things to keep in mind, is that "we are a body". Many members with many differing gifts. You may want to approach your co-pastor from a giftedness stand point and determine what Spiritual Gifts that God has blessed and endowed both of you with. God Bless!

pastor
by: Anonymous

I greet you In The Name of Jesus! Who did God speak to about merging the church? We have to make sure we recognize the voice of God. If you both merged the two churches who is the lead Pastor. There has to be one head, anything with two heads is a monster. So determine who is the head Pastor. Remember God does things decent and in order.

similar situation
by: Anonymous

I feel very sad for you in the situation you find yourself. I, like you, am a co-pastor with someone who will not communicate or interact with me. I see them on Sunday and they basically refuse or diminish any attempt to discuss the church and God's continued direction for us.

I know that our merger was designed by God, but I don't know how to reach my co-pastor. Maybe someone will respond to both of us. Even when you feel alone the ONE who called you will sustain you through the rough times and bless you for your faithfulness to HIM.


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