Escaping the Toxic Person

by Scott
(Evansville, IN USA)

One of the hardest parts, to me, of pastoral work is when you identify that toxic person who has no boundaries. Most experts say if you can't talk with them effectively and come to an understanding, get away from them. But in church, there is no place to go.

My experience is that they "front" really well for others, so no one knows of their behavior with the pastor, around whom they act much differently.

Today a person texted me to tell me "you suck." That's a direct quote. But what do you do? Call them out? Involve other lay people, who don't know what to do? Let them spew the venom?

Lots of people talk about pastors needing boundaries. We do. But wow, do church folks need them too.

Thanks for letting me share...it's been another painful day.

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