Loneliness

I have been called to the ministry and preach 6-8 times a month as well as holding down a full time job. My ministry has been blessed by the Lord but the greatest problem I face is loneliness, particularly as a single man with no prospect of a relationship on the horizon. I have had numerous disappointments over the last few years with relationships that haven't worked out which has made me even more sensitive. The worst thing is coming back to an empty house after a day in church for this is when the depressive thoughts kick in most often. I would like to go into the ministry full time but don't know how I would cope with this alone - at the moment I get companionship and a break from the demands of the ministry through my day job and this helps me to keep going. My family are wonderfully supportive but live some distance away. Is it time for me to consider a change of lifestyle?

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A couple of resources
by: Casey Sabella

Having served in ministry 40+ years, 10 as a single man, I relate completely where you are coming from. Working a job on the side is no fun either, but does help by keeping you occupied. I would encourage you to set some goals that are written down. Visit a few other churches during the week and introduce yourself to area pastors. Get together for coffee or what have you. Start forming relationships with other pastors. I share some thoughts on the subject on ITunes or Stitcher under Minister's Toolbox if that helps. Hang in there!

Don't Be Discouraged! (I know that is hard to hear)
by: Anonymous

I also am in the ministry. While I am married, I have several friends that also feel the same way. The best counsel that I gave them and I pray that it will work for you as well is this. God knows your need. He knows your desire. When God is finished preparing either yourself or that special lady, He will bring you two together. God is working on a Master piece that will take the form in either yours, hers, or both of your life. Trust Him. No good thing will He withhold from them who love Him. Make Him first and it is amazing how he will fill the second, third and fourth places! I will pray for you.

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