Questions about sexuality

I am a pastor of a small church and recently a young couple approached me with a question regarding sexuality. After being married for six years the wife told her husband that she believes she is bisexual. They both tell me that they are very much in love with and attracted to each other. She has tried to hide her feelings of attraction to women and has never acted upon them. They both expressed to me their belief that this is the way God made her and believe this will help them in their marriage. They want to know if it is okay for them to experiment and search out her sexuality. However, I feel that they are only seeking validation for what they want to do.
I do not want to offend this couple or drive them away. Please give me some advice.

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They might want to explore another church as well
by: Stick to the Word

Brother, you have to do what you have to do. Tell them the truth and let them vote with their feet. Paul was quite clear about how to deal with church members who don't want to hear you.

I would definitely feel honored that the couple would ask me about something so intensely private, but now is the best time to help guide them into Biblical truth and counseling.

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by: Anonymous

The Word of God is quite clear: one man, one woman in marriage. There is no other option for sexual expression.

The Word of God is also clear that we love everyone as Jesus loves us. Let them know you will pray for them and that you love them. You may want to remind them that Satan is the Deceiver, and is very good at what he does. If he can get us living by our feelings, he will destroy us.

That is why we walk by faith (trusting the Father and obeying His Word) and not by feelings.


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