Standards for Ministry Leaders

by Jose
(Brooklyn, NY)

I'm 36 and my wife is 32. About 2 years ago my wife and I (who were active in a big, lovely,mega church) discerned that God was telling us to go to the church that we grew up in (a very religious, traditional Pentocostal church). It seemed illogical, but nevertheless, we felt it was God. The Lord uses my wife and I to preach, the Pastor loves us and we love him. The problem is that my wife and I are now fighting about our involvement in the youth ministry. We were both involved but I no longer want to attend youth meetings because strife, jealousy and gossip have not ceased. I prayed for the youth leadership, have brought up certain concerns but yet no change. Furthermore I have given the youth leader (who happens to be in her late 50's many ideas, since then, i believe she has become envious of me and wife. Sadly she the youth leader is a main participant in all the strife and gossip in the youth ministry. The pastor is aware, he's praying for the youth minstry, but nothing has really changed. Becuase I don't want to be invloved in the youth ministry anymore, my wife tells me that I'm judging them and that I'm not perfect. I know I'm not perfect, but I believe that there should be some frutiful standards for leadership. Please advise

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accountability
by: JayCee

You should have a meeting with this youth pastor, the senior pastor and another person on staff or from the church that is respected as a solid christian but will be neutral. Bring up your concerns... ask the tough questions with truth and grace. Get things out into the open. Be prepared for the senior pastor to 'back' his youth pastor. One thing I've learned about senior pastors (for the most part) is that 'rocking the boat' can affect their pay check. Unless someone is moving or retiring, replacing someone in a position is 'rocking the boat.' Also you and your wife must get on the same page. You can even add to you meeting how these things are effecting your marriage.

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